Stop making me feel like a naughty little girl Mum!

So it has been almost two months now since Mum and I bought the house and began living together. My twin Sandy is also living with us which is great for me after not living with her for a couple of years. Sandy suffers from a personality disorder and I was her carer for a long time. One day she decided she wanted to try and live on her own so the family rallied around and found an assisted living place for her. She did love it for a while but as with all things with Sandy, the novelty wore off fairly quickly. She was thrilled when Mum and I bought the house. Sandy has managed to have three gorgeous children and two grandchildren of her own and several long term relationships but that's a whole other post.

Anyway, so back to me which is just how I like it, ask anyone who knows me and they will no doubt agree.

So ever since the day we moved into the house mum has treated Sandy and I like she used to when we were kids living with her a few decades ago. Sandy and I are struggling with this and really need help or suggestions in dealing with it. I have asked mum on several occasions not to clean my room, do my washing, put my washing away etc but she still insists on doing it. Whilst this is great for me as I work all day and think it's lovely to come home to, she makes such a big deal about it and takes great pleasure in telling others how much she does for me.

The thing is, mum is 71 years old and still very spritely but everyone keeps telling her she shouldn't be doing so much and I really think she is going for Mater status. I then continually am made to feel like I owe her so much for doing these chores for  me. I do do my fair share of the housework and cooking etc but as soon as I try to do anything for her she won't allow me. Sandy and mum are home all day as Sandy doesn't work.

I do love my mum very much and am so glad that she is finally living in Queensland with her blood family and no longer in Sydney with her 'Step family'. This has been a long time coming. Her 'step family' treated her very poorly after the death of her husband in January last year and she really wanted to come here to live.


I did sort her life out in Sydney earlier this year when she had major issues with an incompetent solicitor who was a friend of her husband's family who was supposed to organise probate etc so she could sell her house and move here.

I guess what I want to hear from others is how to go about making my mum realise that I am all grown up now and that she doesn't need to be cleaning my room etc etc without hurting her feelings.

An interesting blog I read this morning on why we tweet and blog.
http://www.sarahwilson.com.au/2010/06/is-this-why-you-blog-tweet-actually-why-do-you-blog-tweet/

Looking forward to all feedback, suggestions and comments.